Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Monday, August 16, 2010

Jackie Kennedy said it best.

Tonight after putting the kids to bed, I was catching up on some blog reading and could hear Carter talking to himself nearly 30 minutes after we had turned out the lights. Most evenings, I would have quietly walked in there and sweetly reminded my little rule follower that it is time to go to sleep. Factoring in the aspect, his daily sheet from school had written across it... "NO NAP TODAY", I should have probably not said it quite as "sweetly." However, a thought came into my head that I wanted to interview my little man and what better time than 9PM on a Monday night.... right?

Mom: Carter, what's your favorite color?
Carter: "Green mom."

Mom: What do you like to eat?
Carter: "ICE CREAM!!! Sometimes, at school, we get it for surprises. And cupcakes AND chocolate... YUMMY!!"

Mom: Who is your best friend?
Carter: "Cash and Vincent. And Nate. Hey mom, did you know that Nate starts with a "N?"

Mom: Where is your favorite place to go?
Carter: "Chuckie Cheese!"
Mom: Really??? You have only been there two times in your life and you cried both times when the big mouse came out.
Carter: "We go there if it is some body's birthday and MOM, there are games there!!!"

What is your favorite thing to do?
"Play.... and and (thinking) SWIM!!" Yes SWIM!!

Tell me about your favorite toys.
"Batman and Spider man. I love them."

What is your favorite show to watch?
Smiling at me, "Batman and Spider man."
After I tell him, "Silly... you have never even seen a Spider man show."
He says, "Mom, I think we need to get a Spider man show."
Get a Spider man show? How Carter?
Carter quickly looks over my shoulder at his piggy bank on his dresser and says, "I have money I have been saving mom."

Why do mommy and daddy go to work every day?
"So you can get money to get beautiful stuff."

What do you want to be when you grow up?
"I want to be what daddy is."

What makes you sad Carter?
"When Addie hits me."

What makes you happy?
"When Addie kisses me."

If we could go anywhere tomorrow morning, where do you want to go?
"HEB to get a toy like a race car or a backpack."

What do you pray everyday for Carter?
"Jesus... mom, is he strong? Why is he up on a cloud mom? Is he in outer space? I pray for daddy on an airplane and for Addie and I thank Him for mommy."

Carter, is there anything else you want me to think about when I think of you at 3?
"I am smart. I am... uhm..... sweet and I think I am loved."

With that unexpected last answer and a tear of happiness in my eye, I laid in bed cuddling with him and told him over and over, he is loved and never to forget that, no matter what!

I thought to myself how happy I was that I didn't come in here tonight and sternly tell him he had better go to to sleep because instead, I learned how much he takes in from me and the magnitude of the fact settled in that I can help mold this perfect new form of a human into a loving, sensitive and hard working man with every action and word that he sees and hears from me. Wow... what a job that is and one that I promise I won't mess up on (too much!)

I then suddenly remembered a quote I once read from Jackie Kennedy that I saw in a whole new light tonight, "If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much."


Thursday, May 20, 2010

A Letter to Addie From Your Daddy

Addie Girl,



I can honestly say that you have the best mom and I have the most wonderful wife in the world as this is my first post ever, but I wanted to express how much the last 2 years have meant to me.



Let me start of by stating "You are my little girl", but you will always be "my baby" for the rest of my life.



I have to be honest, you have been one honery littly girl, and I don't expect, nor want, that to change. You keep your mother, your brother, and I on our toes at all times, and it makes life so exciting. Even at the young age of two I already know you will be successful in whatever you do because you are determined, strong willed, and so darn cute. I only ask that you continue to have the relationship you cherish at this age with your "bubba" as you grow older.



It is so funny how at the time parents are so concerned about how "hard" it is with a baby, but I guarantee you ask that same parent 2 years down the road about their child and they don't recall any of those difficult times. I remember a few, but a distant memory to the positives:

  • ADDIE, I faintly remember a few of those long nights, but I will always remember your smile in the morning and you saying "DADDA."
  • ADDIE, I will always remember how you loved the dogs so much, but didn't quite know how to express it(they still run when they hear or see you coming.)
  • ADDIE, I love watching you interact with Carter (Bubba.) It is simply the best.
  • ADDIE, the curls.
    I can't tell you how many times in your first year of life my heart ached as I held you, rocked you, walked you, caressed you, and patted you late at night while you were crying (for what reason your mother and I have yet to put a finger on for certain), but I can honestly say "I loved it", because you are "My baby."


    In the recent months you have grown up so much, and while I cherish it, I don't want you to grow up so fast, but I promise I will enjoy every moment of it.





    DADDY




A Letter To My Daughter

To Addison on your second birthday,

Addie, I have to say, we are at a remarkable age with you. You are at an age I simply adore more than any other. As insane as it may sound, I can reason with you (most of the time.) I love being able to converse with you, to know what you want... usually to go on a "walk", wanting your "baby" or more "milky." It hasn't always been this way; we have come a long, long way from just 12 months ago. Although we have battled much more 'biting' with you and the early and continuous stomach issues. We finally got it solved last fall; after seeing a specialist and 4 months of twice a day Prevacid, however, what I think was most impactful, was FIGURING OUT that your little TUMMY didn't like MOTRIN! After that, you quickly developed into quite the eater, eating anything we serve you.

With your first 18 months came some exhaustion, frustration and doubts that we would make it through in one piece. We joke and say that you were just making sure you didn'tbecome a "middle child!" But you have started more than making up for that early time; potty training yourself at 19 months was one heck of a way to start, girl! You haven't had an accident in nearly a week, even at night, and just 4 days ago you started wearing big girl underwear, successfully, to school all day. You have developed into such a good listener and an even better sharer with your friends and brother. In addition, the ease of traveling with you now is incomparable to just 12 months ago. Your daddy and I often look at each other now with the biggest smiles and reflect on how far you have come.

Now Addie, you know us well by now and know we will always be fair and balanced with you and you definitely still have your moments of biting or pinching your brother for absolutely no reason, resulting in your 2 minutes of time-out and a hug apology to your "Bubba!" It is now safe to say when ever you are extremely whiney, irritable and out of control, we can usually (really without a doubt,) attribute it to being on the verge of getting sick, being sick or getting over being sick.

Speaking of sickness girl, you have taken the prize! 21 doctor visits and separate "sicknesses" in the last 12 months?!?!? Wow! Although majority of those had to do with ear infections, 9 infections in 11 months, you did have a case of pink eye or two mixed in, along with the symptoms of asthma diagnosed at around 17 months of age. You got real familiar with "breathing treatments" and with 4 visits to "Goodnight Pediatrics" in just 2 months, the world of after hours medical care was introduced! You did get your tubes put in at 18 months but surprise SURPRISE, you have continued getting ear infections, even with tubes perfectly in place! One of the worst and longest lasting ailments you battled was at 14 months. You were sick with a high temperature and runny nose for 4 days. Dr. Cuming originally thought it was just a cold but we went back to find red and irritated throat, which tested negative for strep, but you continued to be very lethargic sleeping till 11AM and very clingy and even off balance. To top it all off, you developed a light rash all over your stomach and the icing on the cake, you woke up on 6th day with your left eye lid completely swollen shut! Feeling frustrated, we took you back to Goodnight Pediatrics to see Dr. Sutherland and she strongly thought "adenoviral infection." Your eye was determined to be "periorbital cellulitis," a bacterial infection from rubbing your eye. Of course, in true Addie fashion, it did spread to your other eye, but finally, we got you back at 100% around 12 days after your first sign of temperature.

Your father insists that there are going to be many times in our future where our strong personalities butt heads and I am sure he may be right. However, if I am loving communicating with you at 2 years old, then I can't imagine it being a issue at 15, right?!?! Honey, just remind me of that late December day back in 2007 when your daddy and I were sitting in the sonogram room of the 7 Oaks building waiting to find out the sex of our second baby. When the sonogram tech told me we were having a girl I screamed so loudly and nearly gave your father a bloody nose when I jumped out of the chair in excitement. The entire waiting room claimed to have heard my response to what I deep down wanted to hear so badly; a precious baby girl of my own. The tears of happiness that followed that is a memory that I will never forget and pray you will someday get to experience.

So getting back to you, I know that the primary developmental task of a toddler is to establish autonomy and you, Addie B, LOVE to practice being autonomous! From us hearing the words, "Addie do it," to you attempting to do every single thing your brother does, (with success majority of the time) you have the confidence and ability to do so many things yourself at a very young age. Before I ever had you Addie, I would tell myself, that if I ever had a little girl, I pray for her to have the strongest confidence in the world. I wanted my daughter to be strong and to be a be a leader in what I already knew in my 20's was a tough and sometimes demanding world. In the last 12 months, you have confirmed your fearless, independent and strong-willed personality. We have also watched your hair take on a personality of its own, making such a gorgeous addition to your already gregarious charm. Many times a week, your smile and contagious laugh, make me stop what I am doing and stare at you in disbelief that your father and I made you and God gave you to us to raise.

Addie, you are genuinely a smart girl. You hold us to our word on a daily basis now, no matter, if it is taking you on a walk you so despartely want after we water the plants or giving you a "potty prize" after telling us you needed to use the potty. Just today you stopped me when I was pouring 2% milk in your glass, saying, "No, Bubba's milkl!!!!" You know the difference between the two milk containers and caught me the very first time I stopped buying your whole milk, (since you are 2 years old now!) I tried to explain to you the "2%" means 2 years old! You'll make a great sales person holding your customers accountable to their word.

On your second birthday today, Addie, I want you to know I have enjoyed each and every day on this journey of our lives together – and I continue to learn alot along the way from you. I look forward to each and every day together and feel honored when your daddy and my mom (your Ya-Ya) remind me so often of how similar you and I truly are.

I love you!

Mommy

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Addie Welcomes The Terrible Two's Early!

As sweet as our two precious kids are, there are rough moments at the Brown house. As fun as it is to remember the millions of fun moments, I want to make sure we are able to remember ALL moments! And the last month has added a new dimension to that statement as Addie has welcomed tantrums to our regular routine. We are averaging one major emotional outburst a day usually around 6-7 PM. We have already had SO MANY stories to go along with these like Addie getting so upset that I gave her "milky" in the wrong sippy cup which instantly caused a breakdown that lasted over an hour and my sweet neighbor, Sakarra, was left on the playground with Carter and her son as I tried to diffuse the situation inside.
This other particular night, Addie was HORRIBLY hot and bothered that Ella had her baby and preceded to have a melt down that lasted almost an hour.
Ella even went to try and tell her sorry and to get her to calm down and Addie wanted nothing to do with her!
That also reminds me of another totally and completley different meltdown last week while we were AT ELLA'S house and Addie got so worked up (I can't remember why) and I had to escort her to the car after only being there for 20 minutes, where it took me every muscle I had and 15 minutes just to get her buckled in the car seat because she was so worked up!
Theses 2 pictures take the cake to depcit how we feel about Addie's new found habit... these were not staged and Blake had no idea I had the camera so near by. For Blake to even seem ruffled, you know that these meltdowns are NOT TOO FUN! But I have checked out 6 new parenting books from the library including "Setting Limits With Your Strong Willed Child!"
However the good news is, since I wrote this blog post 5 days ago, we have had 5 awesome days of no MAJOR meltdowns! I wish I could say that it was from alrady applying everything I read in the books but I haven't even opened them yet! (Just give me one more major tantrum and I will be up all night reading!)
WE LOVE YOU ADDIE!
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